A list of the things your significant other is lying to you about.
- They Got Hit On Today
Do you really need to know about every wink and longing look? No. If you do, you're insecure and controlling. All that counts is your partner didn't cheat on you, emotionally or physically.
- They Had an Issue at Work
This only matters if your partner is about to get laid off or happened to be fired . . . or perhaps if your partner really messed up at work. Even still, your partner may not tell you right away or at all until the issue really affects his or her job status. Why? Well, pride, essentially. He or she may feel disappointed as it is, so to disappoint you as well? That can be crushing.
- They Find Someone Attractive
We all find people attractive, but do we really need to point it out to our partner? That's a big fat NO. Again, as long as your partner isn't acting out on this attraction, it's completely natural and normal.
- They Hide Childhood/Young Adulthood Pasts
Was your ex a partier? Did your ex cheat on their college SO? Did your partner get severely bullied? Sure, you may know of these things . . . or honestly, you may not. It's not a measure of your relationship but an indicator that your partner needed to keep the past in the past. We can't be judged for what we did yesterday, but can for what we do today. It may be crushing to your partner to reveal such stuff to you and so there just may be some past things that you aren't privy to, and that's OK.
- They Caught Your Friend Doing Something Bad
This is a generalization, but your partner may hide something a friend of yours did. Maybe he or she caught your BFF cheating or perhaps talking about another one of your friends. It could be major or small, but your partner may keep this from you in order to keep the peace and avoid getting entangled in any drama. As long as this secret isn't dire for you to know or doesn't hurt you directly, it's OK for your partner to stay quiet.
- They Had a Fight With a Friend
This isn't quite a secret but a "no-tell." Why? Well, again . . . it goes back to pride and perhaps not wanting to look foolish or talk about something that's upsetting. Usually this is the sort of secret that will be revealed eventually when the party is willing to tell the whole sad story.
- They Didn't Really Love a Gift or Thing You Did
Your partner may tell you how he or she LOVED the gift you bought for a birthday or perhaps how much they enjoyed a party or event the two of you did . . . but it's a lie. The person may have downright hated the gift or hated the concert/party/wherever . . . but the secret is worth keeping in order to make you happy. Again, sometimes it's best to just be quiet and say thank you.
- They Were Overweight at 1 Point
Again, this is something that a partner will most likely reveal but not right away — typically. Why? Again, it's a struggle of shame or pride. Your partner may fear you will be judgmental or perhaps not view him or her the same as you do now. It's silly and truly shouldn't be kept secret, but it may be and you can't be angry over that.