Lot’s of people are saying “New Year, New Me” but what about a “New Us” when it comes to your relationship. Why not use 2020 as an opportunity to give your relationship a fresh start.
Here are the best ways experts say you can to give your relationship a refresh after the ball drops.
- Kiss For At Least Six Seconds.When the clock strikes midnight, don’t go for a quick peck. Science says you should make that kiss last for at least six seconds to get the full effect. According to dating coach Lana Otoya,"kissing your partner for this long will release the hormone oxytocin, which is the 'bonding' hormone that allows us to feel emotionally attached to someone."Just don’t let them see you staring at your watch.
- Do A Ritual To Let Go Of The Past.Don’t carry a grudge into the new decade. If you really want to wipe the slate clean, make a big deal out of it. Write a list together of all the things you want to leave behind and then burn it. Or write them on some toilet paper and flush them down the toilet since you’re let go of the crap that’s holding you back.
- Schedule Weekly Check-Ins. You’ve got weekly meetings with your boss, why not your sex boss as well? Psychotherapist Barbara Morrison recommends scheduling time to check-in with one another where "each person brings an agenda and meets for one to two hours with no distractions." Use the time to solve issues you’re having and to talk about what’s bringing you both joy as well.
- Change Up Your Bedroom. You’ve seen how happy people are on home makeover shows when they see their new bedroom. Hook yourself up with a bedroom upgrade! Clean, rearrange, and redecorate your bedroom as a couple together and make it the positive space you’ll both enjoy spending time together in.
- Talk About Sex.Get on the same page emotionally and get on the same page of the kama sutra. Use the new year to see what your partner thinks about your sex life. Dr. Nicole Prause says "sexual communication has always been a strong predictor of sexual relationship quality." Meaning the more you talk about sex, the better it will be,and who doesn’t want better sex?
There are plenty more tips about hitting the refresh button on your relationshipherethat you can use to become the Instagram couple everyone else is jealous of!
Source:Bustle