You know that couple who pops up in your social feeds and look so happy you’re low-key jealous of them? Ever wonder what gives them #RelationshipGoals status? According to science, if they’re really truly happy and not just pretending for Instagram, their secret could be that they argue all the time. Because according to research, how couples fight makes all the difference.
- How Happy Couples Argue.A study of self-described “happily married” couples found they picked their battles and took a solution-oriented approach to conflict. So when there’s a fight, it’s usually about something that is easily fixable. Lead authorDr. Amy Rauersays, “if couples feel that they can work together to resolve their issues, it may give them the confidence to move on to tackling the more difficult issues.”So what does this mean for your relationship?It means banking up some compromises with small things like household chores before tackling something big like money issues.
- The Best Conditions To Fight.A recent study found mediation greatly helps improve the outcome of conflict. Couples who have their fights in the same room as a professional were found to be better at resolving arguments, more satisfied with the discussion, and had fewer follow-up disagreements. They were also better prepared to deal with future conflicts. Basically, if you want your relationship to be long and strong, start going to couple’s counseling ASAP.
Source:Psychology Today