There are a couple of real deal-breakers when it comes to dating. Like finding outyour partner sleeps with socks on...or learning they slept with someone else.
If you’re dealing with a cheater, here are some things to avoid during your healing process.
- Don’t try to get even.Relationship expertDr.Jane Greersays you need to fight back your rage, and avoid going fullCarrie Underwoodon theirfour-wheel drive. “Trying to get even keeps your anger alive keeps you in a state of negativity [and] prevents you from moving on,” she says. “It will keep you stuck and won’t allow you to heal.” While it may make you happy in the short term tochuck their Xbox out the window, it’s not actually helping you heal.
- Don’t play the victim card.Now is not the time to wallow in self-pity says Dr. Greer. “Playing the victim will keep you feeling helpless and damaged [and] as a result, your self-esteem will drop, and you’ll find it difficult to participate in your life in a fulfilling way.” Not to sound like your worst gym teacher,but you need to ‘suck it up and push through’ for your own sake.
- Don’t let someone else decide if you’ll leave or not.It’s your decision whether you stay or go. You can’t just leave it up to your mom, bestie, or a magic eight ball to make that choice for you. “Nobody else really understands the dynamics that go on between two people,” Dr. Greer says. “No one else can appreciate what is best for you, and what is going to work for you going forward.”
There is plenty more advice for all of you unfortunate cheat-eesto seeHERE. And remember, the things you don’t do can be just as important as the things you do to get over your crappy ex.
Source:Reader's Digest