Some of you out there aren’t going to be boo’d up for Valentine’s day. This time of year could have your bae thinking deeply about if their love is true, and some are going to move on.It’s sad but true.
So if you end up getting broken up with,or if you’re dealing with one now,here’s some help to get over your ex. According to relationship expert Ammanda Major, these are steps that will have you saying “thank you, next”in no time.
- Take time to grieve.Research says it takes 11 weeks to feel better after a relationship ends and much longer if it’s a divorce. For some, losing a boo can feel as painful as if they died. And while you could try to avoid the feels with some combination of booze, bath bombs, and bonbons,it’s best to allow yourself to grieve. Major says allowing yourself to feel the pain is one of the most important parts of the healing process.
- Reconnect with yourself.At least since your single again, you don’t have to worry about doing the things your ex liked to do anymore.Now you finally have time to do you! You could try a new hobby, check back in with friends you’ve been to busy to hang with, or even go on a fun vacation your ex would have hated. Take back your self-awareness and boost your mood at the same time.
- Ask for help.It’s not too often that someone goes to break up with their boo and they just go“oh yeah that’s cool.”Usually, it’s pretty shocking and that only makes your feelings of rejection worse. But just remember this, just because your ex isn’t into you anymore, it doesn’t mean you’re unlovable or unworthy of their love. If you’re feeling like that, you should talk to someone. And if opening up to you’re family and friends seems like a nightmare,take your story to a professional.
Source:Independent