The top signs that he is a desperate man!!


Writing longer messages than hers

Listen, I hate playing games. If I like someone, I’m going to talk to them and not overthink it. But I also understand that smothering a girl too soon can be a huge turnoff. Just remember to keep your text conversations at the same length or less than hers. Otherwise it can be overwhelming as she thinks, “He’s seems way too serious already. It also makes her feel like she needs to reply more when texting is supposed to be light and fun.

Double texting when you don’t hear a response

So you sent a girl a message and now you keep checking your phone. 15 minutes go by, then half an hour, and then an hour. Now you’re panicking and wondering if she’s ignoring you. You’re dying for a response because you just have to find out for sure. So you decide to send her another message. This is the dreaded “double text”. Just relax. Maybe she just got caught up at work. Maybe she’s hanging with friends or family. Maybe she’s been busy taking a shower and getting ready. If you don’t hear back, text her in a day or two.

Asking if she got your last message or confronting her about not responding

Just like “double texting”, never ask a girl if she got your last message. Assume she did and that she hasn’t responded for a reason. That reason isn’t always negative and pestering her about replying shows you’re just waiting around staring at your phone. Sometimes guys will “joke” about a girl ignoring them or being a flake. You say stuff like, “You’re a really busy girl, huh?” You can claim you were just kidding, but the truth is that it’s usually coming from a place of insecurity or frustration. You feel that desperate need to get a response out of her. This is a great way to make a girl feel like you’re an angry, passive-aggressive guy.

Showering her with gifts before you’ve gotten to know her

You can’t buy a girl’s affection. You may buy her attention as a provider but you’re not creating genuine attraction. You alone are more than enough to build a romantic connection with a woman. Maybe you think showing her what you can offer will give you a better chance…but all you do is set yourself up as a guy who needs to compensate to get women. You might end up with a woman, but she’ll only be attracted to your financials.

Many women also feel pressured or manipulated by a guy who buys them things. They feel like like it’s a tactic to have them indebted to a man — which is often true.

Professing your feelings outright without flirting or creating attraction

This happens if you’re a “nice guy” and stuck in the friend zone. You’re afraid to flirt, create physical contact, or move things forward with the girl you like. Instead, you pretend to be an amazing friend. You believe that if you just hang around for a while, you’ll build a romantic connection. And when that romance never happens, you resort to an outright declaration of love. You tell her that you like her and care so much about her. You promise you’ll treat her better than any other guy. You try to convince her that you’re perfect for her.

Showing up at her work or home unannounced

Yes it’s charming in the movies, but in real life it’s mostly terrifying. And really creepy. A lot of guys do this to force a woman to have an interaction with them. You then put her in a position where she has to talk to you even if it’s not convenient. Women take their jobs seriously, too, and they don’t want their managers to see them fraternizing on company time. You’re just going to make her uncomfortable or p*ssed off. If you can’t get a woman to respond or accept seeing you with a simple, “Hey, I’ll swing by your place today and say hi.” then you shouldn’t show up. But it’s still almost always better to setup a date outside of her work environment.

Being available for her at any time

Whenever you’re making plans with a girl, suggest a single day to hang out. If she can’t hang out then, she can let you know a better day or you can tell her a different time that works for you. You never want to say, “I’m free whenever, just let me know.” or “I’m open Monday, Tuesday, Friday, and the weekend.” You’re not being concrete enough and you won’t get her to commit to a specific day with you. More importantly, a quality guy with a great lifestyle values his time and is busy. He’s working, working out, exploring his hobbies, hanging with friends, and even dating other women. He’s not going to completely clear his schedule to see one girl he’s not fully invested in yet. She has to put in some effort to make time or find a day that’s good for both of you.

If you really have all that free time, then you should work on becoming a man that women chase.

Making plans really far into the future

Sometimes we get ahead of ourselves when we like a girl and it’s going well. We feel that attraction and already start planning out our future together. You start looking at concert tickets for two months away. Or you plan a cool weekend getaway. You’re all excited to tell her about these new ideas because you think it’s sweet.

It’s because you tried to force a deeper connection. She’s enjoying her initial dates with you and being in the moment. She hasn’t even thought that far ahead. The fact that you’re planning a summer vacation together when it’s still March is intimidating.

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Talking about an exclusive relationship way too soon

Guys will have a couple of good dates with a girl and think it’s a done deal. They’re sold on her and want to ensure she’s as committed as they are. They also want to make sure she stops seeing other men. The problem is that most women aren’t sure if they want to be exclusive with a guy until after several dates. And usually, until after sex. If you pressure her to decide before then, she may see her only option as breaking things off.

It’s basic psychology — the more we invest time or emotion into something, the more attached we become. And sex is one of the most emotional and vulnerable acts a woman can engage in. There’s no need to discuss an exclusive relationship immediately unless she addresses it first. Have a handful of dates, hook up, and if you’re still feeling the connection — then you can have the “relationship talk”.

Asking her if she’s seeing other guys or what she does with them

Before you become exclusive, it’s normal for both parties to still see other people. If she wants to see other guys, you can’t force her not to. Needing to know anything and everything she does with other guys makes you come across as insecure, controlling, and jealous. She’ll start to think, “If he’s already like this, how much worse would it be when we’re actually together?”

Remember, she’s not your possession and you don’t own her. What she does with her romantic life is private — she can share it with you on her own if she decides to.

The tighter your grasp, the sooner she’ll want to escape it.


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