YOU DON’T GET JEALOUS ABOUT TIME SPENT WITH OTHER WOMEN.
If he needs to grab lunch with a female coworker to discuss a project, you don’t see it as a secret way for him to cheat. It’s strictly work-related. A relationship riddled with jealousy makes it hard for either of you to function as individuals. Believe it or not, men and women often need to interact in completely non-sexual ways. When you actually trust your partner, you’ll remember that.
HE GETS ALONG WITH YOUR FRIENDS.
He’s not officially in your friend group, but he knows who everyone is — and doesn’t mind spending time with their boyfriends on occasion. It’s great to be with a guy who doesn’t make you feel bad if you need a little girl time. And, it’s even better if your guy asks you about what’s new with your friends and takes an active interest when you get home.
HE DOESN’T TRY TO INTIMIDATE YOU.
Know what an intimidating guy is? An abuser. Even if he’s never laid a hand on you, hovering over you or making you scared is an abusive technique used to gain control. You know your boyfriend would never even think of trying to overpower you or make you feel uneasy. Yes, it’s a shame that this point even needs to be on the list, but it’s necessary. Some guys are jerks.
YOU HAVE ONE OR TWO KEY INTERESTS.
You have at least one shared hobby. Note that you don’t need to have more than that. You’re both individuals and not clones of each other. Your shared hobby needs to be genuine, and something you were into before he even came along. The two of you will likely grow together and pick up more hobbies, but for now, just one will do.
HE DOESN’T COMPLAIN ABOUT HAVING TO ATTEND THE BORING FAMILY STUFF.
Nobody outside of your family is aching to go to a family reunion. You might not even be that jazzed about it. But if your boyfriend makes no complaints, and knows that it’ll be important for your relationship to thrive, he won’t even mutter out a “do I have to?”
YOU DON’T COMPETE OVER MONEY.
You make a certain amount, and he makes a certain amount. Whether it’s more or less, it doesn’t matter. The two of you are on equal grounds when it comes to dates, treating each other, and occasional gifts. You don’t feel like he’s using you for your wallet, and he doesn’t feel like he needs to constantly buy you expensive jewelry to keep you happy.
HE’S SUPPORTIVE OF YOUR CAREER.
Women often have to fight harder in the workplace. You have a set career goal, and you’re dedicated in reaching it. Your guy understands you might keep later hours on occasion, or have a lot on your place. But he’s truly supportive of you and knows that you’re worthy of advancing in the office.
YOU HAVE THE SAME POLITICAL BELIEFS.
They may not be identical, but you align with the key issues. This is a good sign that the two of you feel similarly about huge issues regarding the world, the environment, finances, and women’s rights. Differing parties may not be a huge red flag in the beginning, but as your relationship progresses, you might find yourself having a ton of fights.
YOUR MOM APPROVES.
Parental approval is a big thing. Back when you were a teenager, you might have chosen all the guys your parents didn’t like, as a form of rebellion. As you get older, you realize that your parents know what they’re talking about. They can see these guys from a different perspective. Any disapproval wasn’t a method of trying to make you miserable. Their main goal? Your safety and happiness. So if this guy wins approval, that says that you may very well be the perfect couple.
THE TWO OF YOU OFTEN LAUGH TOGETHER.
Life is filled with a bunch of pressure, sure. But if you don’t sit back and laugh or crack a joke every once in a while, things will get really stale. Your guy has a great sense of humor, and the two of you can always find something to crack up about.
HE’S GENEROUS IN THE BEDROOM.
Dry spells happen, but he’s all about making sure you’re satisfied. He knows that the best sex is when both of you have a good time. If neither of you is selfish and can open up about the topic of sex without fear of embarrassment, you’re one step closer to having the perfect relationship.
YOU’RE NOT AFRAID TO TALK TO HIM ABOUT ANYTHING.
It’s not just sex that you can talk about. You find yourself comfortable talking to him about anything. Communication is one of the hardest parts of any relationship. By keeping secrets or your feelings hidden, you’ll end up sabotaging what you have. With this guy, the two of you can talk about anything without fear of a fight following.